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He’s the last person you see every day, and the first you open your eyes to every morning. She’s the person you come home to every evening, and whose side you are glued to every weekend. Our partners complete and enrich our lives, so it’s no wonder we want to spend every waking moment together. But have you ever wondered what benefits you’d gain by spending time apart?
Most couples spend time away from one another every weekday (and sadly some weekends) in the name of going to work—unless of course you’re the lucky few who are co-workers or happen to both have home offices. But that’s not the type of separation we are talking about here. We’re talking about the time where you have a choice of what to do with yourself—and whom you pass the time with. And even though it’s hard to part, you can actually strengthen your relationship by spending time with a close network of friends instead of your S.O.
“A relationship is really an organism that is constantly changing and updating and moving. And the minute it becomes staccato or stale it starts to die,” said Norm Quantz, M.A., a counseling therapist, relationship expert and author of It’s All About Power and Control. “Contacting friends and being social is a stimulant to that organism.”
That said, only spending your spare time with your partner is like having the same conversation over and over again. Eventually, you’ll get tired of that topic and feel the need to move on. So it’s important that the two of you have a community of friends to regularly hang with. Going out with the girls or having a boys’ weekend is more than just a good time. It’s a way for the two of you to bring new experiences and new energy into the relationship. And just think about how much you two miss each other after a few days, or even a few hours apart. By spending time away from your S.O., you can actually become closer.
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